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DO you agree on parenting?

me and my husband do for the most part, sure there are a few issues at times but not too bad. I have a friend though that her and her fiance do not. with his kids they can do whatever but he has no problem disipling hers. I told her yesterday that it would cause alot of problems in the marriage, and she said that they will just keep thier kids seperate, he can do whatever he wants and she will do hers.


Asked by jenn4443 at 10:19 AM on Mar. 10, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • You are right, they are headed for big conflicts. It does not sound like this friend is very mature, experienced or realistic. When children are involved, consistency is key and in a relationship with children involved you really don't have the luxury of going separate directions. They need to address and resolve their parenting differences before they are married, I wholeheartedly agree.

    Answer by spottedpony at 10:22 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • I would be thinking twice about that marriage

    Answer by arenad at 10:20 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • pretty much. we stand behind the other when one of us has disciplined the ds. however, i won't let him re-discipline when i've already done it (like it happened before dh got home from work). there's no sense in that.

    Answer by dullscissors at 10:20 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • If that works for them, then why not? Every relationship is different so they have 2 figure out what works.

    Answer by Alexias30 at 10:21 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • yes we agree pretty much on everything when it comes to our kids!

    Answer by momto4girzls at 10:26 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • doesn't look lke marriage is a good idea it doesn't sound fair on her kids.. how do her kids feel about mom's fiancee disciplining them.i sure would't be happy


    Answer by greenmommyx2 at 10:30 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • We agree on everything, I am more proactive in church and things but it isnt a diageement!

    Answer by JoLee12345 at 11:06 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • I disagree with your friends idea of what will happen when they get married. He may let his kids get away with stuff but not hers. It isn't healthy to have a relationship like that. A few disagreements re: parenting is understandable.

    Answer by jdzamko at 5:02 PM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • I will add that it doesn't work for her because she calls me complaining about it, that his one son stole something for the house and he will not say a word about it, or them failing in school, he has a blind eye it seems to all his kids do. I understand his kids do not live with them but i would still talk to them about thier actions. But what upsets her is that if her son did the same thing them as she puts it he would beat his ass. not really but you know what i mean.

    Comment by jenn4443 (original poster) at 10:25 AM on Mar. 10, 2011

  • geenmommyx2, i am really not too sure. she hasn't really said. but i agree i wouldn't be happy either.

    Comment by jenn4443 (original poster) at 10:32 AM on Mar. 10, 2011