So my husband and I are separated. The divorce is no where near the end point. For the last few weeks he has gone off the deep end, sending me messages, txt, calls, etc, trying to win me back and in his words "make me fall in love again". He said a couple days ago he has come to terms our marriage is over.
Now he quit his job that was states away and is going to be interviewing at a place within a half hour of where I am now. No big deal to me. He wants to be closer to the kids. His literal crazy behavior has made my family concerned for the kids during him visiting them. Next weekend he would like to take the boys (16m and 2 1/2 years) from like Friday afternoon to Sunday. They would stay at my MIL which is a couple hours away. I have custody agreement papers from an attorney, that he said they hold up in court should my husband not abide by the agreement (take them or not return them kind of thing). A lot of my family think I should only allow him to visit the kids at my parents (which is where I currently am living) and not allow him to take them by himself. Because of how he has acted towards me, the obsessiveness, contacting my friends, trying to control me, being emotionally manipulative. He has a history of depression and once before contemplated suicide when an ex fiance left him. My mother is concerned he will take the kids or something.
I feel like he should be able to take them to his mom's. And I feel bad only having him see them a few hours here and there until a divorce is settled with a custody arrangement. I think the papers i have from the attorney are enough, as a judge takes them very serious should one party not abide by the arrangement.
Anyone have any advice? Should I allow them to go a couple nights to his mothers? Or what? I don't think anything would happen, I think some of my relatives are thinking most drastic case (as I had an aunt take her kids and it took my uncle 3 years to get them back, she was schizophrenic).
Also hard to get into all the details, but wondered what anyone in this situation has done.
Answer by hnharper at 4:21 PM on Mar. 10, 2011
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I'm pretty sure my kids are either deaf or speak a foreign language!!!!!!!!!!!!