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Issues in the bedroom :( adult content

I am 7 months pregnant and up until a couple months ago my boyfriend would do affectionate things to me like kiss on me and stuff. And he would always take time to get me really turned on before sex. Now he just wants me to let him stick it in or always wants me to give him head but he never wants to do anything in return. Since he hasn't been taking the time to get me turned on before sex I haven't got off in a really long time, but for some reason when he asked if I did I always said yes, because I figured that was easier than having to get on top of him and get myself off, and because I didn't want to hurt his feelings and make him think he wasn't doing a good job, idk I just kept saying I did for some reason. Finally I got fed up last night because I have gave him head almost every night this week and I asked him to do something for me and he whined about it ( He didn't use to, and nothing has changed down there that I know of, I still keep shaved and clean)! So I told him about how it bothers me that he don't touch me or kiss me or do anything to me anymore. He does do things like smack my butt and say things about how hot he thinks I am constantly, but that just gets annoying and when it comes down to it he doesn't do anything that makes me feel that he thinks I am hot. Finally I admitted to him that I haven't been getting off for a long time because he hasn't been getting me turned on and he just shrugged it off and went to sleep!! What could be going on? We haven't been arguing much or anything different than from before. I feel that he is just taking advantage of me always doing things to him, maybe I spoiled him?


Asked by kayaiden8907 at 12:20 AM on Mar. 11, 2011 in Relationships

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  • you are definitely spoiling him!! i have had your problem w/ my SO and i'm not even pregnant lol. i talked to my sister about it and she was like "why in the world would he take the time to please you if he knows you'll please him (minimal effort on his part) and especially if he thinks you're orgasming??" it made sense and i stopped the blowjobs, told him i wanted foreplay just as much as he did. initially when i told him i wasn't orgasming with him on top and b/c there was little to no foreplay- he did the SAME thing, rolled over and went to sleep. later he confessed he was just stunned and even hurt because he felt like he was doing something wrong by not being able to make me orgasm (usually i do every time, but only when i'm on top- sry for tmi) anyway my point is don't take it too personal (as hard as that is) and i'd slow down with the pleasing him so much- make him want it/deserve it more..good luck!

    Answer by lexi8622 at 12:25 PM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • Some guys get that way when your belly extends itself. My guy acted differently too not like this but he acted like he was going to hurt the baby. I hope it gets better for you soon.

    Answer by JordonMichelle at 12:24 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • What would you usually do to him before you got pregnant or would you get all the pleasure before.

    Answer by alexia_09 at 12:25 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • My fiance did the same thing when I was getting really pregnant. I was basically begging him to have sex with me. He later admitted that he felt weird with my big belly resting on him. However, I don't think it should be a one way street here. If you are pleasing him, than he needs to return the favor. I sure as hell wouldn't be giving him head every single night, and if he just wants a quickie to get himself off, than maybe he shouldn't be getting any at all. Its one thing if he's honest and tells you that maybe the baby is making him feel weird, but to shrug it off like he could give 2 craps, is rude. See how he likes not getting off for awhile.

    Answer by Ash9724 at 12:30 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • I was the same way when I was pregnant and so was my bf. He wanted me to do everything but HELLO I was pregnant! It's like theyre blind. I always did things for him so he'd be okay but he became selfish. I think it's an issue, well not a bad issue, but being pregnant maybe doesnt sound okay to "go down" on you. I don;t know but he needs to stop being an arrogant jerk and help you out too.

    Answer by ashleyxo8 at 12:37 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • I honestly don't think it's the baby that is bothering him. He will stick it in and go at it but when it comes to me wanting things in return he whines. But what bothers me the most is that it didn't bother him that I haven't been honest with him about me not getting off. I figured most guys would get upset if a girl didn't tell them the truth about something like that...

    Comment by kayaiden8907 (original poster) at 12:37 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • Hmmm... I wonder where it went wrong too. I can't say you spoiled him, because the same can be said about what he use to do for you sexually. And that's just not a fair statement. I like to think that couples go out of their way to please their man or woman, because they love them. So, let's just push the spoil part over to the side. I don't have to tell you that faking it was wrong, because you're already aware of that. Well, what's left?---> A civilize sit-down. Ask what you want. It is up to him to deliver honest answers to your questions. This situation can be fixed without fingering pointing. You both are going through the motions. You both just have to get where you want your relationship to be. But, keep in mind, the relationship may never be what it started out to be in the beginning. Be prepared for that.

    Answer by LanaisSky96 at 1:42 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • I think you need to have an honest talk with him and see how he responds. If he shrugs the talk off I wouldn't do anything for him anymore until he realizes what he has been doing to you. When I was pregnant my husband was afraid to have sex because he was afraid he would hurt me or the baby. So he went to an appt with me and asked my ob and she told him as long as it was comfortable for me we could have sex up until the baby was born so we did!!! Then we had to wait 6 weeks after she was born before we could have sex again and needless to say it was hard on both of us!!! Congrats and Good Luck and if you need someone to talk to just let me know, OK.
    God Bless,
    Billie Mae

    Answer by jesussaves58 at 8:43 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • I would take care of myself and the next time he wanted anything he wouldnt get!! Hes not concerned whether your getting yours so why bother with his. Hes being selfish and turnabout is fair play in my book

    Answer by michellesgirls2 at 10:13 AM on Mar. 11, 2011

  • I wouldn't worry. That just happens when you start getting bigger. They feel weird about trying not to hurt you or things like that. I knwo the further along I was, the more actauly intercourse hurt. I also remember one time, we were cuddling, trying to get the point of sex and the baby started mvoing and it just made us both get sidetracked. In all honesty, we got to the point of not having sex b/c it hurt and I would have to take care of myself. But once you start having sex again, its awesome!

    Answer by isaboo22 at 10:13 AM on Mar. 11, 2011