I've got a lot of stresses in my life (but who doesn't??) however, my current circumstances have caused me to have to live at home with my mom. I was originally obligated when my husband got abusive and I had to move home in October of 2009. My mother and I were not getting along AT ALL so I tried to move again in October 2010 after I had been working for 8 months and found what I believed to be a reliable, trustworthy, responsible person to move in with me..long story (very long story with many details) short, I made the wrong decision and learned my lesson the hard way that I should NOT have a roommate/roommates and should be by myself with my 2 kids and I've made my credit worse.
now to continue with my situation, I live with my mom. I am a single mother with sole custody of my 2 children. I am a server (at $2.13/hour) at a pretty good restaurant but people are starting to get meaner, needier, and tip less. My mother is in school to become an accountant, and doesn't work. I try to sympathize with her situation (being in school for something that takes a lot of concentration, time and can be very stressful, having a hurt shoulder called "frozen shoulder" caused by her diabetes and obesity, and her unemployment that has lasted over 3 years because she "can't find a job" even though she only submits applications online after telling me for YEARS that it isn't the right method of finding a job). My grandmother pays the bills here (not mine, I pay for my insurance, phone, and household groceries when foodstamaps decide to stop for months which gets expensive because my mom will NOT eat healthy and she eats too much) but my granny does pay for the water, mortgage, and all other utilities. my mother watches my babies for me while I work because childcare would be 1200/month (300/week) for both of my kids to go. meanwhile I pay for the groceries that has costed me over 150/week almost 200 or more. and I don't eat often. that and a 2 y/o and 3 y/o can only eat so much. I buy her soda which is her "treat" and I buy the cartons of cigarettes that I only get 3 maybe 4 pack out of...thats rediculous!! she is unreasonable, unappreciative (always expecting me to be overly appreciative of things she does) and shes sucking me dry of my money.she's also a crier...she cries every day for something else. meanwhile, I'm waiting to go back to school and that makes her cry because that's just one more thing to take time out of her day for school, I I'm trying to save money but have to constantly buy gas, cigs, and other shit because she cries about how much money her mom (my granny) has to spend on the house already, and I want to go out ever once in a while because I don't have any friends due to an overly controlling, jealous husband for 3 years. but when I go out I 'm right up the street and go when they are asleep and only once a month IF that. I feel like I'm reasonable with what I want and she has her friends, supportive mother(granny seems to make excuses for my mom and her feelings but doesn't try to see mine)..I'm overwhelmed and out of ideas. I have some money saved from my tax return, but I have bad credit, no other child care, no friends, no moral support, no insurance for a therapist, and feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown if I don't get away from her soon. she is always yelling at my kids because she is very lazy with no care to change her horrible eating habits or lack of activity.
I guess my question is:
Where can I meet responsible friends? or how would you feel? am I being over dramatic? or am I in the wrong? just need some moral support or positive advice. thanks!!
Asked by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on Mar. 11, 2011 in Relationships
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