I'm already looking after my sister in law's child, 15, and it's all good and fine. I have 6 children myself (2 sets of twins), and just found out that i'd got pregnant with twins (completely not planned) but we're happy with it all, and are financially stable. The problem is that I just received a phone call from the representation of the sister in law and apparently she is 4 months pregnant with another child, not by the same father as the 15 year old, and wants to give it to family, namely us (she doesn't have any relatives other than us & her mother who has alzheimers) and does not want this baby adopted/fostered.(she is a drug addict & abusive) Under any other circumstances I would say yes but with me pregnant with twins, 6 of my own & my niece, I don't know what to do. Realisticly it would be impossible, I think, 3 babies at once. But this child is blood related to hubby. Advice!
Answer by tropicalmama at 12:44 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
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Answer by bugandsmiles at 12:24 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
Answer by sophiafarris at 12:24 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
How about if she decides on an open adoption. It would be "open" to you and your family so you guys could spend time with the baby and he/she can know the other sibling. That way you don't have the responsibility of raising another child, yet this child can be in the life of his/her sibling.
Answer by Southerncharmes at 12:24 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
I think its really crappy of her to put you in that situation. What do you want to do? Do you think the child would be better off if adopted?There are plenty of parents that can't have children, If she tests positive for drugs during her pregnancy the baby will be taken by the state, You need to talk to her about finding adoptive parents for the child.
Answer by robinalbright at 12:25 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
Answer by haleykarson at 12:31 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
I think there will come a time where hubby may need to rearrange his work schedule and find time to be at home and help more often. This is a great undertaking for ONE person. I think that this is going to be a life altering decision and your hubby needs to make changes in his life if he is wanting to accommodate more children in his home. Just my thoughts....I'm sure your hubby has very good intentions and sounds like he's one in a million type of guy, but like you said if falls back on YOU.
Answer by Southerncharmes at 12:40 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
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Answer by 20sumstepmom at 2:31 PM on Nov. 23, 2008
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