guy #1 being DS's dad. he was MIA for 5 years but is now in rehab. he used to do drugs, was abusive, etc.. a typical deadbeat, POS guy... except that he still gives me butterflies, i look forward to talking with him, etc. my entire family (except DS) hates him.
guy #2 is pretty good.. treats me with respect (for the most part- i caught him in a lie that i haven't confronted him about yet), he's been there for me and DS since DS was 3 yrs old- he's 5 now (almost 6). i'm comfortable with him, i know that he'll treat me good as we get married, etc. he's never really done me wrong (opposed to #1)... but i dont get the butterflies with him anymore, i dont feel attracted towards him anymore. =( but my entire family LOVES him, and his family loves me.
I dont know what to do. i dont think that taking time apart from each other will help either. i feel like guy #1 is just lust and guy #2 is love-- its just we've plateaued in our relationship, nothing to look forward to since we dont do anything outside of the house (we play video games mainly... cant afford to do anything and its still too cold to go outside for long periods of time). we dont even talk like we used to!
i dont know... maybe i'm just asking how do i get back that butterfly feeling with #2? how do i get over wanting to hug #1? i just want to sexually hug him too, play with his hair, the things i used to do when we were together-- the idea of having sex with him, repulses me!
I just dont know. =(
i will add that guy #2 is the most stable relationship i've been in. my past exes only lasted 9 months but they were abusive; both physically and emotionally... which is why i have no idea why i want guy #1 since he was the biggest/worst abuser!
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