I think I finally realized that I don't like being a parent. DS is "babysat" by the TV/video games all day. I just don't want to DO anything, I guess. I'm really just a lazy, fat slob. When we do play, its all about guns, zombies, sonic, drowning (sonic can't swim), etc. While I don't have a problem with it, I don't want to play like that/hear things like that every day- all day. He gets himself breakfast and lunch now, as well as snacks, and drinks. I mean, he is a pretty good boy-- which AMAZES me since I'm his only parent and I've lacked more than I'd care to admit. (bio-dad is not in the picture at all).
the main reason i don't like being a parent is b/c i never had a parent... I don't know how to associate with someone on any level (never had a friend either) and that includes my child. When i was young; like 6 or 7, i emotionally cut myself off from everyone and now that DS is reaching that age, I'm doing the same with him, maybe thinking that he'll do it to me, so I'm protecting myself before he really hurts me...
Yes, my son is only 5 but he is treated and acts like a grown man. He plays black ops, left for dead, etc. He watches adult swim.
I just dont know how to be a parent! Simple things, i just dont know. he rarely sleeps; about 5-6 hours a night, no naps.. so if he goes to bed at 9, he'll be up by 2 and awake all night and the following day. do i put his bedtime further back to meet his needs? how to i change his habits into toddler needs (i know he needs more than 6 hours of sleep!)?
how do i change? how do i enjoy being a parent?! how do i stop cutting myself off emotionally from the only person who really needs me?! =(
EDIT: I wasnt meant to be a mom. I dont want to say that DS was a mistake, but he wasnt concieved.... willingly, I guess. I was just 17 years old when I had him, I'm against abortion and I really felt- still feel- that I can be a good parent. I just dont know HOW. I think I partially feel that this was my chance at letting my mistakes- my past- never happen again... Not turning into my own parents, not allowing a child end up in fostercare, etc. that my horrible history can aide an amazing future... my chance at giving a child something that i never had, in a way. =( I dont know. I feel like i'm making excuses, but at 17 years old, it sounded good... Even now, it sounds nice. I just dont know the actions to take, in order to fix my problems, as well as forgive and forget my past. (i want to forgive/forget emotionally cutting myself off, so it doesnt come into my future... does that make sense?)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:18 AM on Mar. 12, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Answer by louise2 at 5:40 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
I think you should speak with a professional. I don't believe there's anything that any of us could say to repair what's going on in your life. Unless a mother whose been in your shoes comes along and shares her triumphant comeback. I'm sorry i couldn't be of any help :(
Answer by LanaisSky96 at 5:41 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by ryahzMommy at 5:54 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 5:56 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 6:01 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
Well said Anonymous (answer before me!!!!) And good for you, mom that posted the question! Your recognizing you need to change, right there is your" first step!" I'd say take baby steps, don't expect to change overnite , then you won't set yourself up for disappointment. By reading what you say, .you can see the things you need to change,I'd say that's your second step accomplished! Like others have said, if you can get professional help, do it for you and for your son, I think the moment you see your changing, even if it's the slightest little improvement, it's gonna inspire you to be better. I understand your childhood, "sucked",so has alot of others, but you have to realize your childhood does not determine who you are! That's whats so" great" about you, you have the power to change it, for yourself and your son!" Baby steps", just like I said, even if it's one thing a day,like making his lunch today. YOU CAN DO IT!
Answer by anichols1 at 7:00 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by Syphon at 7:15 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
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Answer by vbruno at 7:58 AM on Mar. 12, 2011
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