My SO has tons of tension in his back, shoulders, etc. He asked me last night to look up a massage therapist in the area. He specified "make sure they don't do the 'happy ending', I don't want that." I asked him later why he felt the need to specify that. His response was "I knew if I didn't, you'd explode because I must therefore want the happy ending."
We have never had a trust issue between us. I have never said or done anything to imply I didn't trust him, and I have never been the type to "explode." In fact, he frequently gets upset with me because I don't tell him when something bothers me.
I'm feeling really ticked off at him for this comment right now. I know he's had a girlfriend or two in the past that didn't trust him, and had anger issues, and so I feel like I'm being punished for stuff they would have said or done. And I don't like that. It's not fair to me, and it's not healthy for our relationship.
Am I justified to be angry at him, or am I overreacting?
(I am not angry for the "no happy ending" comment, it is the "you'd explode" comment that I'm upset about.)
Asked by Anonymous at 4:51 PM on Mar. 12, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by AWomansMind at 6:45 PM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by CABlonde at 4:55 PM on Mar. 12, 2011
Maybe he was joking - maybe it's a topic he and his buddies have discussed - maybe he wants you to get a little possessive... the simple truth is that men DO NOT think like women do but if there's not ever been any mistrust before I wouldn't be upset, personally. Maybe he was fantasizing that you would explode because another woman's hands would be on him. Find a male message therapist and it won't be an issue ROFL. That's probably exactly what I would do. LOL Either way, good luck! :)
Answer by AAAMama at 5:00 PM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by lexi8622 at 9:20 PM on Mar. 12, 2011
Answer by dusty1962 at 8:12 PM on Mar. 13, 2011