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As a child I was emotinal, verbally, physical abused by both my mom and dad. When I moved out at 18, I did everything I could to avoid her. We started talking about year after I had left home, things were and still are tense between. I have a lot of ongoing issues with ex. She seems to upset me everytime I talk to her or she comes by, I just really need someone talk to about this, because I can't go through this again with her. It is not fair to my daughter. Plus as my mom as gotten older, her temper is showing more again and will NOT leave my daughter alone with her.

I am just so hurt, frustrated, sad, and confused about why this keeps happening!

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:43 PM on Mar. 12, 2011 in Relationships

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  • You need to either address these issues with her or stay away from her its never going to get any better if she is like my mom she thinks she did nothing wrong but I know and you know better. Let her go it might make your life better.
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 9:47 PM on Mar. 12, 2011

  • if it is that bad for you i would slowly try to shed her from my life,i mean you have a family of your own that needs you and you getting upset becuz of her is taking the you your family knows away from them and they dont deserve that. good luck
    jodi205

    Answer by jodi205 at 9:47 PM on Mar. 12, 2011

  • hugsShe is probably living what she lived as a child which is why it's important to love and treat our children with respect. i"m sorry she treated you badly but it's possible she knows no other way to act. Her anger isn't toward you it's toward herself and her parents. If she won't get help for her anger issues then it's possible you may need to just distance yourself from her.

    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:54 PM on Mar. 12, 2011

  • We all need to learn from our elders even if is in how to not be like them. We just need to remember right&wroung. At that time we can all move forward.
    helpme77

    Answer by helpme77 at 10:33 PM on Mar. 12, 2011

  • My mom is the same way. She had a huge attitude and was absolutely horrible in front of my kids. So I quit talking to her and things are way better without her around. I hate to say that but its true. My kids are a lot calmer since she hasn't been around. She doesn't know where we live or our number. It maybe better for you and your daughter to quit the communication. Do what's best for you and your daughter. Good luck. I'm sorry you had to go through this.
    tnvplus2

    Answer by tnvplus2 at 10:49 PM on Mar. 12, 2011

  • welcum to the club don't feel guilty
    smiley745

    Answer by smiley745 at 8:46 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • YOU HAVE TO PUT YOUR DAUGHTER FIRST AND WHATS BEST FOR HER SO IF YOU HAVE TO AVOID YOUR MOM FOR YOUR BABYS SAKE THEN SO BE IT...YOU CANNOT ALLOW HER TO DESTROY YOUR CHILD ALSO...SO STAY STRONG AND GOOD LUCK
    lena695

    Answer by lena695 at 5:10 PM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • Sorry to hear this but if this situation is still happening maybe your mom needs to get so help to see where her anger is coming from and not take it out on you and your daughter doesn't need this drama in her life especially since you and her father are no longer together.
    You need to tell her that if she can't come over to support you when you need her or just listen to her without criticizing you then she needs to not come over because it upsets you and your daughter, it's hard telling your mom that but you need to, to have a piece of mind....You don't know me but I would love to be a listening ear.....Dusty
    dusty1962

    Answer by dusty1962 at 7:43 PM on Mar. 13, 2011

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