Background information needed: My son is 5. Right before christmas he had a horrendous nightmare, where I was killed by an intruder and he could see everything that was happening but he couldn't save me. He woke up screaming, and was able to recall vivid details of the nightmare. I was concerned, made an appoint with the pediatrician. It was decided the dream wasn't based off anything experienced in real life, but his extreme anxiety about being "replaced" in my life. In September my SO and I moved in together. In October we found out we were expecting, and in November got engaged. Up until my son was 3 it had always been just him and I, and up until September we were still living just him and I, even though SO was there all the time. My son still sometimes will say he misses "mommy and maison in our old house" time. So it's been well decided the dream was his anxiety in dealing with all these new changes, and in a sense "loosing" his mom. At first ds stopped wanting to sleep all together. That progressed to willing to sleep, as long as he was in my room and I was right there touching him at all times. This progressed to sleeping in my bed, with me absent (due to the pregnancy I'm on the couch for comfort). The newest step we're on is sleeping in his room, with me laying by his side. Next I plan to just sit in his room, so he can see me but can't touch me. But we're not nearly ready for that yet. It's been a week and although he falls asleep in his room, he's woken up every single night at some point and joined me on the couch. So this is a step we're gonna be on for awhile, and that's ok with me. The dream was horrific, and I'm proud of the progress he's made.
I'm a SAHM (use to work part time but not lately) so spending quality time together is not an issue. I'm constantly working comments like "I will ALWAYS be your mommy" into our everyday life. I remind him a new baby and new step-dad doesn't change the fact he's still my monkey (a nickname since birth). I say "love you" a million times more then I did before, which was already at a million lol. You may not have any advise, but I can't help but wonder if maybe I'm missing something. If there's anything else I could do to help him. It's been 3 months and sleep still isn't back to normal, so although we're progressing I sometimes wonder, what am I missing to help him? Does anyone have any other suggestions/advise other then what's currently being done? Thanks :)
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