My mother works a lot so she don't get to come to my house as often as she and I would like and see me and my 20 month old DD and DD is really shy and she does not like to go to people she is not use to being around everyday...well. My Mom while shes at my house want to hold hug and kiss DD..But, DD don't won't to..and she will cry..My mom which means well I know..Picks DD up anyway and hugs and kisses as she wants..upsetting DD..I am afraid if I tell my mom not to it will hurt her feelings..so I try not to say anything..My DD is only 20 month old and just don't want people picking her up that she is not use to on a daily bases..But, On the other hand I want my mom to kiss hug and hold her granddaughter..They say never to force unwonted attention on a child..Answer Question
Answer by txdaniella at 1:06 AM on Mar. 13, 2011
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Answer by Kimberly71682 at 1:15 AM on Mar. 13, 2011
We had that problem too. But I would just tell my dd to use her big girl words and say no when she didn't want to be picked up or talked to. So whenever someone would say something to her she'd tell them no instead of fussing or being upset. After a while when she was comfortable she would approach the person for a hug and kisses. I just never believed in making her do something that she wasn't comfortable with. But then my parents understood that she was kinda spoiled to being around me all the time too. So they gave her the space she wanted. Now you can't get her to leave their house.
Answer by Danni143 at 1:21 AM on Mar. 13, 2011
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Answer by older at 10:50 AM on Mar. 13, 2011
I would talk with your mom. She's the adult in this case and I really don't believe in making children upset to sooth an adult. Your mom needs to realize that your daughter really doesn't know her and work on seeing her more often before she is forcing unwanted affection on your daughter.
Answer by scout_mom at 11:51 AM on Mar. 13, 2011