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How can you help a women to leave the man that is cheating on her?

Well see there is this problem with a girl that has on e of those kind of men that's likes to cheat on her, but knowing her she stupid enough to stick with him no matter how he treast her. Cause the girl is I guess meany in love with this guy, but then he gose out and cheat on her for no reason, and she is a pretty nice girl. And i wonder why he would do that to her, she did nothing wrong to him. So he gose and gets two other girls pregnant and these girls were nice enough to tell her that he was cheating on her and that they pregnant for him. She was so clam about it. One of the girl told her that just had sex with her baby daddy just that day too, at there house while her and her daughter were at an appointment. But then the two girls were sister's. The little sister was two months pregnant already, and the older sister was ot to sure if she was cause that day she had sex with that girl dude, he cum inside of her that day cause he told here that he love her and she fell for and he also told her that he wanted to give her a baby and she know that he already had a daughter. He told her that him and his baby mama were not together anymore. But then i guess they were so the whole time he was lying to her. He told the little sister not to tell who got her pregnant. So she had to hide things to her older sister cause the older sister didn't know at all that the little siste had sex with that guy cause he told her not to tellthe older sister cause he didn't want to loss the older sister, I guess he loved her and he love his baby mama. Ever since the older sister was talking to the dude she been trying to tell him to work things out with his baby mama. But he just wouldn't listen to her, so the older sister didn't know what to say to him anymore, from there on the older just started to believe everything he said to her. And from there on it was down hill.........

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:11 AM on Mar. 13, 2011 in Relationships

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  • she wont leave him till shes ready. no sense in putting so much effort into it when she doesnt want too. if she did she would have already.
    shellychivell

    Answer by shellychivell at 6:31 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • my best friend is in a bad relationship. no matter how much i try to get her to change her mind, she won't listen. and what is extremely difficult to me is that she is not the type to usually be mislead by anyone. Dopamine is a chemical in our brain that leads our body to infactuation. many think this is "love" because it is the strongest chemical the body recieves once the relationship has started. this chemical can be relased any where from 6 months to 3 years. at this point, the chemical doesn't allow the mind to process what other people say. the smell and feel of another person can cause this chemical to be released. not necesarily their actions. this is the point where the one can see no faults in the other or makes excuses for the faults that do exist. after dophamine, this chemical will continue to be released while she is around this person. it will stop being produced in 6 months to 3 years.
    TiffanieK

    Answer by TiffanieK at 7:04 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • unfortunately, she may form a dependency on him by that point. he could manipulate her into thinking that she can do no better and she may never leave him. look for when cracks in her armor start to appear and then start trying to talk her into leaving him. Maybe by this point, the chemical will not longer be producing.
    TiffanieK

    Answer by TiffanieK at 7:06 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • I think you could tell a person till your blue in the face. She knows but she is choosing her own path. I think there is nothing you can do but be there for her when she decides to leave him for good.
    Autumn07

    Answer by Autumn07 at 7:10 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • She have to get tired of him nobody can get tired of him but her...
    smiley745

    Answer by smiley745 at 8:37 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • She has to realize that she deserves better.
    tootoobusy

    Answer by tootoobusy at 8:46 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • EVEN THOUGH THATS A MESSED UP SITUATION TO BE IN YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE WHO IS IN LOVE LEAVE THE PERSON THAT THEY ARE IN LOVE WITH. EVEN IF HE IS A LYING, CHEATING DOG. ALL YOU CAN DO AS A FRIEND IS TELL HER THAT YOU THINK SHE WOULD BE BETTER OFFF WITHOUT HIM. BUT WHATEVER YOU DO MAKE SURE YOU DONT ATTACK HIM WHILE TALKING TO HER BECAUSE ITS GOING TO PULL HER FUTHER AWAY FROM YOU AND SHE WILL FEEL AS IF SHE HAS TO STAND UP FOR HIM.
    BUT IN ALL REALITY THIS WILL NOT DO MUCH BECAUSE IN ORDER FOR HER TO LEAVE HIM SHE HAS TO WANT TO.
    ryahzMommy

    Answer by ryahzMommy at 8:51 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • Tell her how you feel then leave it alone.. Let her make her own decisions..
    Obi.Ren.Kenobi

    Answer by Obi.Ren.Kenobi at 9:10 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • Majority of women have a breaking point. Only she will know when she is ready to let go. Nothing you do or say will fast forward the process.
    BlueBandida

    Answer by BlueBandida at 9:15 AM on Mar. 13, 2011

  • Well... there's nothing you or anyone else can do. Your friend has to find her own strength/self-worth to leave this guy. I believe once a person is tired of suffering, then they'll leave.

    LanaisSky96

    Answer by LanaisSky96 at 12:02 PM on Mar. 13, 2011

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