My sister, who I have a strained relationship with due to the fact that I spoke up and said something another member of my family did was wrong (inappropriate sexual stuff) is friends with me on facebook, but I cant see anything she posts on her wall, only pictures. She is giving me the silent treatment, ignoring my calls, except she returned my calls twice w/o leaving a message-once I wasn't home, the other time I tried to pick up but it was blank on the other side. I am hurt by this b/c we are 15 yrs apart-I'm the older one and I doted on her from day one b/c I fell in love with her, and I was also hoping when we got older we'd be close friends. Well....in her teens she moves to this town where she's really close to this family and another gal 2 yrs younger than me. They become best friends. She does favors constantly for the family, helping with this and that. Another gal she helps with her kids all the time, after church its like "let me do this" "I'll change her!" Me????? " Sis your kid needs a diaper-go change it!!" "You need me to help you with the kids or watch them so you can go do laundry ALONE FOR ONCE??" "I"m too busy-you had the kids!!" That hurts me because I feel like this other family was reaping the fruits of my labor when she was younger-and this was all before the stuff with the other family member being appropriate happened. We did hang out every now and then, but the other family was clearly number one in her book. :(
For her sweet 16th birthday party, mom and dad threw her a big party at a pizza place (of which I'm gonna scrapbook to hopefully show her how much I love her, as well as one for Grandma and Grandpa -though when I told Grandpa about it on the phone it didn't sound like he cared. For her 20th birthday, she apparently got 1) to have her friends around her and 2) a pink Kitchenaid mixer-the fancy one cooks dream about. I was partly happy for her when I saw that but partly jealous too. All I EVER got for my birthdays was a homemade birthday cake in a pyrex pan, roses, and a few small gifts. I remember one year from Christmas I asked for a DVD player (because I was just starting on my own, and I knew VCR's were going to be obsolete soon, so I figured I may as well skip them, and I didn't think mom and dad should have to spend the extra money on a player that played both-I wasn't trying to be greedy) so what did I get? A VCR, and a cheap one at that. I dont know why, but if for some reason money was an issue (but their finances never changed drastically to my awareness) they could have just said they couldn't afford it and gotten me something different instead of just ignoring my wishes.
I want to have a gracious attitude-but there is part of me that wants to call them up and mention the VERY EXPENSIVE mixer-and how I never got something that nice-or a sweet 16 party-OR even a gift from them from the tiny baby shower they threw me. How much do you wanna bet when my sister has a baby she's (she's technically my half-sister by my dad, btw...but its never felt like it) gonna get one BIG BANG of a party, loaded with top-of-the-line gifts?? I dont know what to make of this but it makes me feel they love her more than they do me....I've thought though of trying to save up and getting HER a pink cricut...should I?? and is there a NICE way to say something to my mom?? We talk, it's just strained-but I at least tell her I love her. Oh, I made nice comments on her fb page about the mixer, a few seconds after she responded to someone else-she ignored me and "liked" everyone else's comments but mine. Is she just hurt b/c of our strained relationship and giving me the cold shoulder-or is she spoiled and not even caring that I NEVER got something that nice??? Please help you guys. This hurts so bad I wanna cry every time I think about it.
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