Honestly do you have an idea about them before you even see them or do you judge them in the same way as anyone else?
I am 16 and my daughter is 12 months old, when I conceived her it was not consentual, but I don't think that matters at all, I'm talking about how well you parent not what silly mistakes some people make - it doesn't mean they're inherently bad people... I go to a baby and toddler group with her every Saturday and there are about 12 other mothers there most Saturdays. They won't talk to me, they won't even look at me most of the time and last week when I tried to join in with a conversation about first steps they just looked at me like I was speaking another language.
A few weeks ago somebody criticised me for using my phone in the supermarket when I was asking my mother if we had bread in the house, a woman came up to me and said: "why are you teen mothers always texting and not looking after your baby? you make me sick.". I'm at the end of my tether, so I was wondering is it the same everywhere? Do you have a pre-conceived idea at all?
I love my daughter just as much as anyone else loves their children and I'm just getting really down about all this. Whatever I do is never enough for some people, a mother is a mother, no matter what their age their personality stays the same. Do you agree?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:10 PM on Mar. 14, 2011 in Parenting Debate
I would have said " I hate it when old people get into other peoples business instead of looking after THEIR own kids". How freaking rude of her!
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 7:12 PM on Mar. 14, 2011
I wouldn't want my child to have a baby at a young age but stuff happens. There is no "perfect" general age to have a child, that age differs for each and every one of us. As long as you are doing what you know you should be, that's all that matters.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 7:13 PM on Mar. 14, 2011
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Answer by JordonMichelle at 7:17 PM on Mar. 14, 2011
I don't have any preconceived notions about teen mothers and if you were in a play group with my I would talk to you. It is not easy being a parent at any age and think as moms we need to stick together. We need people to talk to and vent to. I was 22 when my first child was born and 27 when my third was born. When I became a SAHM after my 3rd child was born I started going to a play group and met some great moms. Most of them are 8 to 10 years older than me. 9 years later these people are still some of my best friends. I guess what I am saying is you just need to find the right group. I know it is hard & frustrating, just dont' give up as time goes on it should get easier.
Good Luck and keep you head held high. It doesn't matter what other people of you, believe in yourself.
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 7:17 PM on Mar. 14, 2011
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