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Why do many, if not all, societies value virginity so much, esp women?

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Asked by SabrinaMBowen at 8:33 PM on Mar. 14, 2011 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Most women who value their virginity do it for religious views. But there is one more reason that many forget about totally. It is the only thing you can give to your husband that someone else hasn't touched. On the wedding night, it is a very special exchange for the husband and if he too has refrained it is an awesome exchange for the both of them.

    Answer by GiGito1SoFar at 8:39 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • I think I posted this here back when I took a class on Mother Blaming themes in lit.  It covers a lot of the reasoning - these themes are universal in most socieities, though the details may be a bit different.  In Aisian cultures, it's more about honor than piety, for example

    The Cult of True Womanhood


    Answer by NotPanicking at 8:43 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • I believe its men seeing her as property and taking her virginity is his right

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:46 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • I think it is a way of knowing the baby is his

    Answer by pammomof9 at 8:57 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • A woman's worth has been reduced to her virginity in a time when it is no longer necessary. While at one time, a woman's worth was her sexual virginity, and then her ability to bear is no longer a worth or value beyond what we assign to it.
    Women should be valued for so much more than her sexual self. People speak of giving themselves to their DH on their wedding night....ya know, I think giving one's heart speaks a hell of a lot more than giving one's sexual self.
    We place so much value on it that girls see that is their ENTIRE worth. And we wonder why girls are struggling with how to balance being overly sexual and self respecting.
    WHy is our worth to a partner all tied up between our legs? we are more than that.

    Answer by sahmamax2 at 9:38 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • Sexuality is sacred, it's not just a physical act, it can be a spiritual experience. In my religion (Judaism) virginity isn't mandatory, but it is encouraged as we value sexuality as a very spiritual act that fulfills all its functions within the context of marriage.


    Answer by momto2boys973 at 10:12 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • NPs Cult of True Womanhood link is really good...those were crummy times for female sexuality!

    also, humanity hasnt understood conception for very long (during the late 1800s it was believed that 2 weeks after a woman's period was the safest time to have sex without conceiving). there was a time when it was believed that any man's sperm could inpregnante a woman even if months has passed. so if a woman was a virgin the husband knew for a fact that all the children she bore were his. in a way a woman's future was better protected if she was a virgin since it would be a lot harder for her husband to claim the kids werent his.

    Answer by okmanders at 10:14 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • those were crummy times for female sexuality!

    And still are - that was one of the article we read the first day of class, and then the rest of the semester, we read other things looking for the 4 "ideals of womanhood" from that article and the themes from the other articles we read. The most recent work we read was written in the 2000's - still had all 4 symbols, where your clue that the female character was bad was because she rejected those 4 ideals.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 10:24 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • Assuring paternity? A woman always knows that a baby is hers... a man may not know that a baby is his unless he is positive that his partner does not have any other partners. I think there is some inherent fears about women's sexuality... Pliny the Elder wrote that a menstruating woman could cause milk to curdle and a myriad of other nasty things!

    Answer by Freela at 11:39 PM on Mar. 14, 2011

  • Patriarchal CONTROL.

    Answer by MamaK88 at 11:19 AM on Mar. 15, 2011

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