First off I'm new here, and just starting to get around the site. My husband I began dating almost five years ago, and he also has a daughter who is 5. When we first started to date, his ex was really good about letting him see his daughter. After awhile, this stopped. She no longer would return his phone calls, and would say that his daughter was either too sick to visit, or was too busy. Needless to say, we got lawyers involved, and she is being forced into letting us see his daughter. It is starting slow (which I agree with) as to not confuse his daughter, because he has not been able to see her these past few years. Since then we have also had a son together. Today was their first visit at a neutral place. So we didn't overwhelm her, only he and his mom went. (Dad and Grandma). He has yet to introduce our son and myself to her. I don't want any problems with her mom, but I'm not sure how to act around the mom and the daughter. And I definitely don't want to be a reason why his daughter doesn't want to come see us. I want her to be a part of our family, and am having troubles figuring out what the right protocol is. The mom is not a bad mom, and I can sort of understand why she did what she did. I'm assuming it was because she thought he was going to be the type of dad who left. She had another child at the time when they were together and she became really attached to him. When they broke up it broke that little girl's heart, so I can understand why she would feel the need to protect her children. I'm at a loss, and don't know what to do.
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