My 13 year old son has ADHD, oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorder and well, he brought a jack knife to school March 7, 2011, plus made a threat to slit a student's throat, plus drew a picture of the student with a knife through his head.
He is suspended from school indefinitely pending a meeting on March 21st where the school will discuss whether or not they feel he is a threat to students and staff and whether my son can return to school.
So, his 'march break' started early. The plan was for my son to go to his father's (by court order for half of the march break) but he wanted to go early so I let him.
The other part of the plan was for my father to pick up my son tomorrow (Tuesday) and bring him to his place to help out with some work around the house (to pay off the big $1265 porn bill he run up on my cable tv bill).
I called my son tonight to let him know my dad will be there tomorrow and of course now he doesn't want to go.
My son's father then called me and said 'well he doesn't want to go so he doesn't have to' Well, true in a way I guess BUT that was the plan and we should be sticking to our plan.
My x also says I can't go there to pick my son up at all, nor can my dad go there either.
Court order says 'only half the march break' my x says too bad.
He is adamant on keeping my son there for good. I called the police. The police told me that my x can not do that and if we have any issues to give them a call back. So, we will see what happens tomorrow.
Here's what I want advice on. Even though I know it's BS. My x is saying that because my son has always lived with me that I am the one who taught him to lie. That I taught him to watch porn, that it's my fault he brought a knife to school and made threats to slit a students throat.
My son has told his father (and his father's family) that I leave him home alone all night, and that we come home most nights at 2 or 3 am, and that that's why he's so tired all the time.
I can't believe my son would tell such lies! This is not true! I am home all the time, except when I go for groceries, to pay bills, and get coffee. I am so disgusted!
His father and his father's girlfriend have been saying things to my son for years about getting him to live with them. The girlfriend asked my son 'if he were living with them would he still love his mother' Now, what kind of question is that?
You see, I've been trying to set some rules here in my home (just me and my son living here) and teach him what responsibility and respect is, I've given him a few chores and he feels I'm being unreasonable. So, because of setting some rules, he wants to move out.
I have an appointment made for June for my son to see a counselor. The guidance councelor at the school is trying to help me get the appointment bumped up so we can get in sooner.
Other than what I'm doing already to help my son, I don't know what else to do.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:47 PM on Mar. 14, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
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