This is a sensitive subject for me but I'd like some advice on how to deal with my family. When I was a child (long before I was even old enough to remember) I started engaging in self-injurious behavior as a response to abuse that I was recieving at home. The abuse was of course not known, or not addressed in anyway (not sure which). Anyway, so I started to bite myself when ever I was overwhelmed by any emotion. I became the big family joke (not just my immediate family but my huge extended family as well). They used to taunt me to do it, and then laugh and make fun when they finally pushed me over the edge. It is a very painful subject for me, still a problem that I struggle with, but I'd thought I put the teasing in the past. Until that is that a cousin posts a nasty comment on facebook about my children doing it thinking that she was being funny. My children don't need to cope that way because they aren't being abused! I haven't addressed the abuse with any of my family (except my abuser who I confronted and is now deceased) and my husband. I feel re-victimized by the jokes. How would you address this situation?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:28 AM on Mar. 15, 2011 in Relationships
Do you feel comfortable telling her about the abuse? If not then I would just say " you shouldn't comment on things you don't understand".
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 2:34 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
I wouldn't. Less is more. Thanks for sharing. That took courage. Just as it took courage to be a survivor. Ignore her and what she said. less is more.
Answer by rosetoes at 2:37 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
Answer by laird6372 at 2:38 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
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Answer by karen020253 at 2:34 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
Answer by Busimommi at 2:41 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
I would definitely confront her on her bs then. For her to know and still make a comment like that was insensitive and rude. It would (for me) either be I'd confront her or I'd cut her off.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 3:27 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 6:04 AM on Mar. 15, 2011