My sister has had 3 c-sections and constantly talks about how great it was to just "have it over with and not feel anything". After each birth she spent over a week in the hospital and then over a week in bed at home ( actually on the couch since she couldn't do stairs). And yet she still glorifies c-sections to the sky and was trying to talk me into "getting one" with my son, as if it were the best thing that ever happened to her.
Having a natural birth was important to me. I wanted to do it that way since before even getting pregnant. In fact, when it turned out that my son was in the breech position and it didn't look like he was going to move, I even had a version ( not sure of the spelling). It is a procedure where the doctor turns the baby inside you from the outside by pressing on your belly. It took an hour and was very painful, but the doctor was able to turn him around and I was so happy, since he had told me that I would have to have a c-section if it didn't work. My belly was bruised purple and brown for the last month of my pregnancy, but I didn't care. We had our natural birth and I was out of the hospital in three days ( It would have been 2 but we were have trouble learning how to nurse) and was back to normal the minute we got home. I was able to cook, clean, and care for the baby by myself, since my husband had just started a new job and had to time off.
Fast forward to last weekend and I overhear a conversation going on between my sister and my brother. She was saying it was "selfish" of a mom to have a natural birth when anything could happen to the baby or the mom, and when c-sections were so safe and quick, and how she had never heard of a baby dying because the mom had a c-section. I was pissed. I think my descision to have my baby naturally was anything but selfish, and I think my sister is just ignorant to say that. I went through a lot to have my baby in what I consider to be the best way. It wasn't like I was at home alone giving birth in a bathtub. I was in a hospital with monitors on me and the baby, a nurse and my husband by my side and doctors checking in every hour or so. When my son was born, the doctor barely made it into the room before he crowned, but he was pretty busy with the lady next door that was screaming her head off. However, he did "catch" him and all went beautifully.
I think a c-section is a wonderful thing if it needs to be done, but I personally would rather have a baby naturally. If there was an emergency and my baby was in danger I would be screaming for them to cut me open, but to me there is no reason to do it just to save some pain. All the drugs they put into your ( and the baby's ) system can't be good for you or them. Every day there is a new recall on drugs. I want as little of that in me as possible.
So what do you think? Do you think natural birth moms are "selfish" ? Do you think c-sections have their place, but are over-used in our pain-free, instant gratification society? Or do you think c-sections are the bomb? Looking forward to a lot of different answers to this one, and going anon because the last time I asked a similar type question I was bombarded with private e-mails calling me a bitch, whore, and the like :)
Asked by Anonymous at 11:38 AM on Mar. 15, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by matthewscandi at 11:42 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
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Answer by NannyB. at 11:46 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
Your sister is trying to justify her c/s. Let me tell you something. I am a NICU nurse. We go to every single c/s including elective, scheduled term babies. There is a reason for this. Often the babies come out stunned and need resusitation (Oxygen, vigorous stimulation). Sometimes they just can't get themselves together and need to come to NICU and end up on oxygen and with IVs. We never, ever go to a healthy term baby vaginal delivery. I'm not saying that I ave seen a healthy baby die from a c/s, but they sure have a rougher time than the vaginal deliveries.
Answer by asiamommi at 11:46 AM on Mar. 15, 2011
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