When you go in to check on her in the night, don't hold her, rock her, sing to her, read to her, talk to her, or even look her in the eye. Every time you interact with her in any way in the middle of the night, you are reinforcing her pattern of waking up.
Also, keep in mind that letting a 14 month old toddler "cry it out" is far different than letting a 4 month old baby do it. A 14 month old isn't just crying - she's throwing a tantrum because you aren't doing what she wants you to do. How do you deal with a tantrum in a store? Do you give her everything she wants so she doesn't throw one because you don't have the heart to see her so upset? Or do you let her throw the fit and ignore the improper behavior?
When I realized that I was encouraging her to throw fits is when I decided enough was enough.
at 12:24 PM on Jul. 9, 2008