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Any advice on how to get my 23mo to stop throwing toys?

We have tried timeouts, spankings on serious occasions, taking the thrown toys away for a few days, throwing toys away...any other advice? This needs to stop!


Asked by jspenny2705 at 1:11 PM on Mar. 15, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Keep taking them, maybe longer time outs. My dd would throw stuff at her sister and would get a nice long time out in the corner in the hallway. Which was 5 feet away but still far enough she felt left out on the fun. It's probably something thats going to take some time it wouldn't get fixed over night also its the age WELCOME TO THE TERRIBLE TWOS!

    Answer by letlovegrow2524 at 1:22 PM on Mar. 15, 2011

  • Wow I dont know. pinch him or her. lol i just made that up because you already mentioned everything i would have said to try. sorry i'm no help but good luck. maybe if there is another child you could let that child play with the toy and yours would get the point that if he/she wants toys you have to be nice. lol mayb he/she will out grow it

    Answer by Dianakk at 1:21 PM on Mar. 15, 2011

  • It sounds like you are doing the right things. Time is probably the best solution. Anything stressing your child out? Anything he/she is acting out against? If you can't think of anything, it's probably just a phase.

    And for your sake, hopefully a short-lived one. Hang in there and keep up the good work.

    Answer by blu_canary at 1:21 PM on Mar. 15, 2011

  • At this age, they don't necessarily know what an alternative behavior might be...try giving them a command like: instead of saying "no throwing" say "we put our toys down gently" then demonstrate.

    Answer by Kimedbs at 5:47 PM on Mar. 15, 2011

  • A baby less than two doesn't "get" any of that . . they are going to throw toys and spill food.
    Spanking does more harm then good, so try to avoid that . . . it has been shown to be harmful, and have no effect on child behavior except instilling fear.
    The best thing that you can do is try to remain calm. Put all of the hard toys in a box and put them in the garage. Let your child have at it with the stuffed animals and soft toys until he grows out of the throwing phase.
    Reintroduce the hard toys one by one. When he throws, put it back in the garage. he will learn.


    Answer by ImaginationMama at 1:21 PM on Mar. 15, 2011

  • I always praise him for things he does right or well, it's really only this one thing he needs work on :/

    Comment by jspenny2705 (original poster) at 1:25 PM on Mar. 15, 2011

  • Try the time out again maybe? Get at his/her eye level and give a warning that there will be a time out if it continues and then follow through. Take all the anger out of it and just be matter of fact. Lots of times parents give up on time out because it takes time for the child to understand what it is all about. You might have to take the child back to the chair/spot over and over for him/her to "get it".

    Make sure he/she gets positive attention from you also. And praise when he/she does something right. Often kids go for the negative attention when they do not get enough positive attention. GL

    Answer by elizabr at 1:25 PM on Mar. 15, 2011