My Dh went to put our 13 year old daughter's backpack in her room last night, and then picked up one of her folders in the living room and went to put it in her backpack. When he opened it he found two packs of Marlboros and a lighter just sitting in the inside pocket! I was out shopping when this all happened. He confronted her about it and she admitted she is smoking because all the other kids are (groan..) When asked where she got them, she said it was not our business. Dh took them and threw them out with the lighter, and she responded by saying" Thats alright I will just get more tomorrow". Any advice on what to do at this point? How much control do we really have over this?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:26 AM on Nov. 24, 2008 in Teens (13-17)
Does she get an allowance? If so, take it away from her so she doesn't have any money to spend on them. Let her know that you will find out who is giving them to her and it's against the law which means her "friends" are going to be in big trouble when they get caught. I would continue to search her backpack and room. Every time you find them, throw them out, I wouldn't even say anything to her about, it's not like she's going to come back and say, "Mom, who threw out my cigarettes?". If she has "free" time away from school or at home....then I would take that away from her right now. If she doesn't have the time to sneak and smoke then she's more than likely to get tired of the game she's playing.
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Answer by Grandmav03 at 10:57 AM on Nov. 24, 2008
Don't you love those little come backs kids come up with. Yes, your daughter can always get more cigarettes and you can always keep throwing them away. Go on the Internet and educated your daughter on the dangers of smoking. I bet you can find a few pictures which might just make her think! I would also have a talk with her friends when they come over to visit. Good luck to you and to your daughter
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