Our neighbor's son is seven years old. My son is five. Our son is high functioning autistic. Because of that, he is prone to nightmares and is sensitive and impressionable. We keep him a bit sheltered. He attends a Christian school and only watches cartoons on Disney, Nick and PBS.
Today, the neighbor boy came over to play for the first time in about a year. When I checked on them, I found them playing a very disturbing game. The neighbor boy was pretending to kill my son's stuffed animal (and narrating what he was doing) in different ways - drowning him, running him over with a bike, throwing him up and letting him hit the ground, and hitting him in the head with a football.
I was horrified and told his mom what he was doing (she was inside visiting with me at the time). I explained that my son would be in serious trouble at school if he recreated this "game" there. I told her that I thought it was disturbing. She rolled her eyes, but brought him home. She clearly thinks I am overreacting. She pointed out that at least they were not arguing like they used to. In my mind, this is worse than an argument.
Am I overreacting? Is this behavior normal for a seven year old?
I had a conversation with my son explaining that the Bible says not to kill and that it is so bad that we should not even pretend to do it. Is there anything else I should do to explain to my son that this is wrong?
BTW: My son will not be playing with this neighbor boy again.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:25 AM on Mar. 16, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
You might be over reacting a little. No one can say for sure if there is something wrong with that little boy because we are not there. I have 2 boys and they play games similar to this at times. It is not something they do all the time and they know that killing things is wrong, so I usually don't think anything of it. Also, when I was a kid we used to play cops and robbers all the time and if you were a robber and tried to run the cops might shot you. Maybe that is a little different because cops are suppose to protect so it is okay.
I guess bottom line is you are not comfortable with her son showing your son stuff like this. She sees nothing wrong with it; therefore you are at an impasse. It is probably best that they don't hang out anymore, although I don't think she is a bad parent or that you are because of this difference.
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