There is a woman who my husband slept with twice a few years ago apparently. He told me about it in '09 I believe. I know for a fact that she is in love with him and I wonder if he has spent time with her again, had sex, and more. He works late Friday and usually Saturday nights until like 2:30am and doesn't come home until almost 4am sometimes because he says he takes a co-worker home. This happens almost every weekend. I have always wondered if he is lying but I don't have any proof or anything. I told him when he confessed in '09 that I couldn't and wasn't going to go through him cheating on me again and that I would be gone, along with our two daughters. I just don't know what to do. I know some of you will probably say just leave him but it isn't that simple. I don't know how I would be able to live without him financially and emotionally. We've been together for almost 9 years and married for 2. AGH!!! I just want to scream and cry because I don't know what to do. I have tried to ignore my feelings and thoughts about him possibly cheating but it always is there.Answer Question
if it were me I would talk to him and find out what he says. He might not be cheating and you just feel he is because of what happened before so your trust of him is low. If you want to stay with him you are going to have to learn to trust him again and that is a hard thing to do. I think I would consider going to counseling, together and separately. That way you can talk through the problems you are having. I understand it not being easy to just leave because if it were me I would try everything to keep my marriage intact. If in the end I can't then I would cross that bridge when I come to it.
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 4:01 AM on Mar. 16, 2011
Who is the person he is giving a ride? You could ask them if your husband takes them home and about what time. I'm sorry, he broke a trust and needs to expect you to be reassured that he is not cheating. That is what I would do but I know I can be vicious.
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