My MIL live 6 hours away, so other than phone calls every other day, I don't have to deal with her much. However, they are planning a weeks vacation to our area in July and she is having a fit to babysit my kids. (My oldest is about to turn 3 and she has NEVER kept any of them alone for any length of time at all). I will not be letting her babysit. I just don't trust her with my kids. She smokes like a freight train, even when we visit, she only plays with the kids for small amounts of time, no real efforts.... And to top it all off she has a super creepy boyfriend that I don't even want to get within 5 feet of my kids, much less leave them in a house with him for any length of time. So all that said, Do I outright tell her she can't babysit or just keep avoiding her when she mentions it? I don't want to hurt her feelings, I just don't want to lie to her either. Help.
Answer by AngryBob at 9:09 AM on Mar. 16, 2011
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Answer by meooma at 8:58 AM on Mar. 16, 2011
If there is one thing I have learned as a parent, that is to trust your instincts. If you don't feel comfortable, don't let her watch your kids. However, you could have her watch the kids without ever leaving the house. Don't mow your lawn, let your garden get a little overgrown. If she wants to watch the kids while you are outside, then do that. We don't allow my kids to be outside while we mow the lawn, and I don't like them to be inside by themselves. So we have someone watch them while we are outside. Allow her some time alone with them, but give her some rules. Your house/kids, your rules. Tell her no smoking, period. No tv, computer, you don't let the kids watch too much, and no boyfriend. Send the boyfriend on errands with your DH. This is just an idea, compromise. But as I said, if you don't feel comfortable, don't allow her to watch your kids.
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