I know I am not the easiest person when is comes to the big O. For some reason my body just turns off and I get nowhere. But at least my DH used to try and get me there. Now he's just stopped trying. And trying to talk to him about it just makes him angry.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I am tired of "foreplay" being "get the toy." Yeah, sure, the toy works but I am so sick of being dependent on a toy to get me off and I'm sick of him not making any attempts to even get me in the mood. I feel like I am doing all the work for his pleasure and he won't do anything for mine.
I touch him, I explore his body, I give BJs (even though he knows I HATE BJs), I massage... I initiate... but he doesn't reciprocate. I just want him to try and he doesn't anymore. And when I try to talk to him about it... it just starts a fight.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:15 PM on Mar. 16, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Arretsmomma5 at 3:25 PM on Mar. 16, 2011
Answer by Chloesmom1126 at 1:17 PM on Mar. 16, 2011
Answer by KWnavywife at 1:19 PM on Mar. 16, 2011
Why don't you go through a year of sex where your husband doesn't touch you except to put it in and see how you feel about it?
OP had you said in the original post what you just said then my response would have been very different. You post sounded to me like you wanted your husband to keep trying to give you a orgasm in ways that had proved not to work.
You are perfectly justified in wanting more than that, from what you said it sounds like you 2 aren't communicating. assuming that you just want some other kind of foreplay, but don't care if it doesn't result in a orgasm, then do all you can to let him know that. Write him a note, whatever.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:58 PM on Mar. 16, 2011
Sounds like he's given up on the foreplay and it probably won't get any better until you figure out why.
Why should I be willing to do things I am personally uncomfortable with doing (read: BJs) I am just condemned to having to suck it up and let him get his rocks off You're assuming that he's getting his rocks off. Just because he's ejaculating doesn't mean that he's having a great time.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:59 PM on Mar. 16, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:00 PM on Mar. 16, 2011
Answer by Jerzymom at 2:27 PM on Mar. 16, 2011