My four year old son is autistic but pretty high functioning. We have an "autism mom" group at his school and there are about ten members. We go out for coffee and discuss the problems of raising a child with autism and sometimes do outings to local parks and the like. One of the other moms has been working her way through the group, attaching to a different mom every other week, driving them crazy. We don't want to exclude her from the group, because we all know how hard it is to parent a child with autism and want to give moral support to each other.
What she does is basically monopolize every conversation with talk of how "autism is becoming so normal that pretty much every kid will have it some day." and talking about "the spectrum" as if it is a cool hangout spot like a nightclub. She tells us all about how her sister's kid is autistic and her sister won't believe her and get him tested. We have met her sister and her son and there is no way he is autistic. She sees autism in every person she sees. I was talking about my husbands eating habits and she cut in and said he must be autistic. It is driving us all INSANE to deal with this woman. Oh, and her own autistic kid was diagnosed only after she was in school for about two hours. They called this woman and asked her "Can your daughter speak ?" and she said "Not really." How do you not think that a four year old NOT BEING ABLE TO SPEAK is normal and not get them tested for SOMETHING? They also found out at school that her daughter is completely blind in one eye. Every picture this woman has shown us of her daughter, back to when she was less than a year old, her daughter is squinting that eye shut! Apparently that was normal to her too.
We all have autistic kids in this group, one of us had twin girls that are non vocal and severely autistic to the point where they will probably have to be institutionalized later in life. NOT ONE of us spends half as much time complaining about every last detail of our lives like she does. Its hard most of the time to get a word in edgewise, never mind tell our own stories. Our last coffee day she interrupted another mom who was telling us proudly about an award her son got to say that she was pretty sure the lady that checked out her groceries last week was autistic.
We would all fell bad black balling her, since it is soooo hard to be an autism mom :( Anybody have any ideas to help? Thanks :)
Asked by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on Mar. 17, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by TARARENEE at 3:33 PM on Mar. 17, 2011
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Answer by But_Mommie at 3:33 PM on Mar. 17, 2011
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Answer by do_me22 at 4:15 PM on Mar. 17, 2011