In my opinion it's worse to come and go then to just stay gone. You can't miss something that never occurred. My son is 5 and every time I get him to the point he's ok with dad being gone, dad shows up for a week and screws with him emotionally. Then leaves and I'm left with a hurt, abandoned, feeling unloved child. My friends daughter's father hasn't seen her since she was 2 weeks old, and that little girl has no emotional issues. As far as she's concerned she has the world's best mom (she too is 5) and that's all that matters. And when her mom got married and the guy adopted her that to her is her dad. She calls him dad and knows no other man by that term, and it makes her happy. I pray every day my son's father would just disappear and stop screwing with his little mind, because he does more and more damage every time he drags his ass around us.
at 10:37 PM on Mar. 17, 2011