When I was 18, my boyfriend, 20, gave me the whole "I love you" spiel and told me on several occasions that he wanted to marry me and have kids right then. I continuously told him I wasn't ready for kids and I wanted to finish school before I got married. Two months later, I was pregnant even though we used a condom. After the first month he admitted to me that he had done it on purpose and poked holes in it. I was mad but as long as he was supportive and took responsibility I was okay it. Apparently, after the third month is where panic sets in. He took off to NY and ignored me. Now, three years later, our son is a happy little boy and has my husband who has been nothing short of a spectacular father to him. Guess who pokes his grimy little head up. All of a sudden he wants to see his son who he has never even met once. He says he was scared. So was I! And I had to do it by my self! He claims he has seen that what he did was wrong and he wants to make up for it and be in his son's life.
So why should I let him? He wasn't there when he was born so his name isn't on the birth certificate. So legally, unless he takes me to court to demand a blood test to prove he's the father, I don't have to let him see my boy. He hasn't helped me with him at all in three years. And my son is happy having my husband as a daddy and he's always treated ds as his own. Introducing he bf would confuse him. Would you let him in?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:01 AM on Mar. 18, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
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