Am I the only one that disagrees with this? That you can hurt your child as long as it's not what CPS considers abuse? I don't know about you guys, but I've been hurt badly before, even when it didn't leave a mark.
Sexual abuse does not leave a mark usually. I would venture to guess that is not okay for most mothers. There is this older saying: sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me. Not true. Words also wound and don't leave a physical mark. It can be as painful as physical abuse. Many people who do abuse their partners and children are very careful to not leave a mark. It doesn't mean abuse can't be horrifically creative and pure torture all the while there are no marks at all. I still stand by any punishment meant for pain, retaliation, to get even....is no kind of appropriate punishment. It is abuse when the goal is to cause distress physically and emotionally. I could never be proud of myself if I were to deliberately inflect any kind of abusive distress on my child or any other child.
Answer by frogdawg at 1:58 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by Anna92464 at 1:40 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by kitchenwitch78 at 1:53 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by elizabr at 1:36 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
I think if your main concern when disapiling is CPS then your a horrible parent.... end of story.
My main concern when disciplining my child is if the disciplinewill result in a lesson learned and a change in course... If what I want/need my child to learn so that he/she can become a successful, happy adult will be provided from the discipline given... and if they will change a behavior that is a negative in their life.
Answer by sahlady at 1:40 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by jessiskinner200 at 1:40 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by kitchenwitch78 at 2:11 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by older at 3:06 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
Answer by frogdawg at 7:32 PM on Mar. 18, 2011
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