Long story short, I live 550 miles away from where I grew up, where my parents still live. We normally make a trip down there twice a year. We couldn't go at Christmas like we planned, when my husband had a week off from work, because of the bad weather. My husband has been working 6-7 days a week, sometimes double shifts, for the past year. My parents want us to come down there for Easter, but the bottom line is my husband cannot afford to take 4 days off of work. He doesn't get paid when he doesn't work and he won't get any paid time off until the last week of July, which is when we are going on vacation. My parents have made no effort to come up here to see us and my children. The last time my dad was here was 9 years ago, when my second son was born. I came up with an idea, for them to take the Amtrak up here, and we would pay for the tickets ( Amtrak is dirt cheap travel). They took the Amtrak many years ago up here, and really enjoyed the trip. My mom said no, we can't do that, immediately, without explanation. I kept asking her why, and all she did was give a long list of excuses; my dad can't travel that far ( they will be able to walk around the train), they don't want to leave their house that long because there have been break-ins lately ( their house could get broken into when they go to Wal-mart, and their neighbors are such busybodies, that they would know immediately, if something was happening while they were gone). It is MUCH more of a hassle for us to travel down there than it is for them to come here. We have 2 dogs and 2 cats that need tended to ( they have no animals), my husband would have to take off work ( my parents are retired) and I get frequent migraines, and I always get one when I sit in the van for 10 hours. It is literally a financial and physical hardship for us to make the trip and they have NO REASON not to come up here!! If they want to see their grandchildren, they need to make the effort at least ONCE, instead of us always having to do it. There is also drama with my brother and I have no desire to get into a brawl with him if we do go there ( it's a long story)
So am I wrong for being angry?
No!! Like you said it works to two ways. Your parents being retired would give them more opportunity to visit than yall.
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