In regards to me and my husband (I can't speak in regards to anyone else..).. Here's what we have learned over the years.
In order for us to stay connected. The very first key is: Making and keeping "US" as a priority. Our interpersonal relationship must stay a priority in our lives. Life has a way of taking over if we allow it: kids, work, bills, the dailies..etc and it's really easy to put "US" on the back burner to these things. However, that is one of the main causes of disconnect between couples. So we make and keep "us" a priority. Even if that means we only (this was when our son was growing up) spend 10 minutes a night where we just focus on US and us alone, that time is a must have.
The other keys have been: Always doing our best to show one another how much we :love, appreciate, admire, respect, adore, desire..etc one another. The little things really matter. Showing love, acting on love, creates loving feelings.
at 5:40 PM on Mar. 18, 2011