My daughters father has visitations with her and has NEVER showed up. I would always harrass him to spend time with her that he would tell me to get off of his d*&* about it. He has made false claims of me abusing my daughter and DCF closed the case because it was a LIE he was admitted to a mental instiution one of the days of the claim. DCF told me it would be neglect to leave her alone with him. I filed for child support and to spite me he made another false report to DCF, told his mom he can murder me if he wants and the following week filed for custody and visitations. While I was pregnant with her he stopped coming by and stopped caring and started denying my daughter so I moved out of state to my parents to finish college and get help. During the time I was out of state I flew him in every month and paid hotels just so he can be around his daughter. I moved back to the same state so he can be with her. He chose to NEVER come around when I moved back with my daughter. When we went to court for visitation I asked for supervised due to his mental health and they said no.
Today I come from work to pick up my 3 yr old like I usually do and she is not there. I assumed he picked her up. I calll and call and no answer. Finally he answered and said she is with him and he is notgoing to let me talk to her or know where they are. Unfortuantely today is a visitaion day. I am so heartbroken right now. If I knew he was going to take her then I would have been prepared but I didnt and have no idea where my 3 yr old is. He has no groceries in his home and has no money. My daughter is still in her school uniform no clean underwear, she has kidney issues and no medication, no food, he does drugs, prescrips, his house is filty and there is nothing I can do. I called 911 and they told me to just wait and hope he comes back with her on sunday if not then go to the station. I am so worried sick about my baby and I dont trust him. Ive seen several lawyers during the week and they all told me that visitation is so tricky to just leave the order since he never shows up. All they really want me to do is file for child support which I refuse. The courts wont listen and help, lawyers wont help me. Do I just have to live with uncertainity and pray and home she is safe. 911 said they can do a well being check but if she is in neglectful conditions then wait til monday to go to court.
what do I do when i go to court. This is so hard for me to deal with alone. I have no money for a lawyer and need all the help I can get.
I will not be able to sleep or eat not knowing where my child is and if she is eating and if she is clean and if safe.. i cant talk to her or hear her voice.
I know he is her father but I dont trust him and no one is there to help me and I just have to live each day worrying if she and I are safe.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:11 PM on Mar. 18, 2011 in General Parenting
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