Ok, I know this is going to sound rude and elitists, but I don't have a lot of spare time to word it politely and/or be politically correct .
I put my 6th grader into a new private school recently and he's making a lot of new friends, and it's great that he's become so popular so quickly....that's the GOOD news.
Here's the BAD news...a lot of kids have invited him to parties, sleep overs, etc and he's having a great time....EXCEPT....here it comes....I don't approve of one of his new buddies PARENT'S lifestyle.
I KNOW that sounds awful, but they are just VERY different from us. We are college educated, non smokers, non "cussers" (is that a word? lol), non violent video game, non hunters, dare I say.... "preppies" (< I HATE the word...but it does come fairly close to describing our lifestyle quickly).
They are 180 degrees opposite of us...and not in the good, "look at the new cultural experineces my child will be exposed to" kinda way.
My son's friend is a nice boy, and I've met his parent's a few times and have avoided at them school/social functions.
They are covered with tattoes, smoke, cuss, drive motorcycles, smoke pot (yes, I did go to college...I KNOW what pot smells like! lol) etc., the other parents call them "WTWM" (White Trash with Money, which I find equally appalling to refer to anyone in this manner) ....they just VERY different from us and I don't want my son to be around them or in their home.
Am I being politically incorrect ? YES, I DON'T CARE ! lol
We've had this boy over to our house and made sure he is invited to our parties and evetns, etc., as to not to feel excluded (after all, it's not the childs fault that was the lifestyle he was born into, and he does seem to have "unhappiness" around him and seems a little sad and lonely...... but the issue is.....the child is beginning to ask why my child can't go over to his house?
How do I handle this without hurting the boy's feelings?
I've explained a FEW of the reasons to my son can't go to this kid's house, and my son "gets it " (he seemed a little relieved actually, I think he was a little nervous about going there too) ....but....
WHAT DO I DO ABOUT THE OTHER BOY?
I can't use the "my son has allergies" to your dog excuse, because he's been to the parties , etc., at other boy's houses where this boy was and those other friends have dogs too.
I could use some advise on how to handle this situation and PLEASE don't just LECTURE and/or point put spelling/grammar errors and/or tell me I'm being a snob, etc. (it's not only unproductive, but a waste of time!) ...
.I'm just looking for SERIOUS solutions here !
Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy life to read about mine!
UPDATE: To all of those who have decided it is your "duty" to lecture me about the many "wonders' and the "fabulous" lifestyle
of bikers, smoking, tatooes, etc., you are just wasting your time!
After I read the few words of these lectures, I can see where the post is going and I just stop reading and move on to the next....so you are TRULY just wasting your time by writing them to me! But I will give you a polite "cut and paste" repsonse...so you have that to look forward to ! lol
AGAIN....My decision has been made and my child will NOT be going to the other boys home, so I am looking for solutions as to how to handle the situation in a diplomatic way and I am NOT looking to be lectured....
Bottom line...if those of you who feel that the above mentioned situation is a healthy environment for YOUR children...you are WELCOME to drip YOUR kids off at any bikers home that YOU choose to.....MY child will NOT be allowed in that type of environment....
And to those "adults" who have been calling me names? REALLY ?
Don't you think that name calling makes YOU look like a FOOL ? So.....GROW UP !
Now.... can we please just move along to the issue at hand ?
To those to have taken their time to write HELPFUL suggestions to me.... THANK YOU and I'm considering all of them and trying to at least reply in kind.
To those of you who have given me a kind, "pat on the back" for being a good parent....THANK YOU VERY MUCH....I'm trying, but it's tough in this very hostile world we live in....all we can really do is guide and protect our childeren and keep them in a SAFE and mentally healthy environment and show them positive role models, as much as we can until they go off to college. (But after reading some of the posts from "adults" on here....looks like the job is going to be even more difficult than I thought it was ! LOL)
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