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Natural Consequence Parenting....

Ive heard of people just letting "natural consequence" be the discipline method of choice.
For example - Spilling milk after being told wait for help-child pays for it... Child plays on equipment wrong- falling will teach him the lesson not to do it..

But is there are tons of things I dont get -what about back talking, or disobeying the parent...
Is there a website or something that helps with learning how to put in a place a more natural consequence? ....


Asked by Anonymous at 11:19 AM on Mar. 19, 2011 in General Parenting

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Answers (3)
  • The Love & Logic parenting style uses a lot of natural consequences, but when there isn't a natural consequence you have to create one. Also, if you believe there is too great a danger in the child really hurting themselves, like the equipment in your example, you might have a consequence for ignoring your warning rather than letting the child actually hurt themselves: example, "Uh Oh, it's sad you aren't listening to Mommy. Now we have to leave the playground."

    On a toddler/preschool level, consequences for talking back can be as simple as, "Uh Oh, it's sad you aren't talking nicely to Mommy. You can go sit in your room until you're ready to be sweet." Another option would be to not do something special for the child because you only do extra special things for kids who talk nicely to you. For instance, if you had planned to go out for ice cream that day, now you don't get to do it.

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 11:39 AM on Mar. 19, 2011

  • Things like not getting special treats or having to leave the room are a natural consequence to unacceptable/rude behavior in the real world. If you have a rude waiter you aren't likely to tip them very well, or if someone is rude to you you are going to avoid being around them (with a child this means they have to go somewhere else, like their room so you don't have to tollerate their rudeness).

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 11:44 AM on Mar. 19, 2011

  • I do some of that,but not to the point were it puts them in danger.

    Answer by AngiDas at 11:37 AM on Mar. 19, 2011

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