How do you rebuild the trust? My BF of 2 years lied to me (about what is a big deal, but lets just keep is simple for now).... and now, i'm beginning to question EVERYTHING in our relationship; has he lied before? what else will he lie about? he kept up this lie for 2 weeks until I confronted him about it... so is it possible for him to lie and live in that lie for how long?!
He says that he was wrong, but- not as an excuse- but he lied b/c when he asks if I'm okay, I'm not truthful with him (I'll say I'm fine even if I'm really not)... but that's how I grew up. I've been working on it since being with him, but it's my fall back defense mechanism.
Am I wrong to question our entire relationship/everything that he says? Part of me says yes, but part of me says no... I was lied to by EVERYONE (parents, friends, exes, etc) my ENTIRE life. So am I putting my past problems onto him, or am I justified in questioning it all?
I don't want to break up with him- and I think I want to work it out... But how do we/how does HE rebuild that trust? (If I can't get over this trust thing, then the relationship is doomed)
As far as I know, this is the first/only time he lied to me, but then again, I question what else he lied to me about, especially since I have no proof of previous lies.
Answer by mommyxdos at 12:05 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 12:06 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
Answer by fiatpax at 12:21 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
Answer by fiatpax at 12:24 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
Answer by mommyxdos at 12:27 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
Answer by Kimimale at 12:34 PM on Mar. 19, 2011