I'm so frustrated! She is almost 24 yrs old and I agreed to let her live with us until she got a job and "got back on her feet." I realize now that I didn't set any boundaries before she moved in and now she's here and it's causing major conflict in my marriage. She did get a job and is making enough money now to at least contribute but my husband thinks I'm "being mean" and that we should just leave her alone until she's ready to move out. Ugh! We don't have lots of extra money to support her either. She calls my husband for a ride from1 work because she doesn't want to wait an hour for the bus and doesn't pay for any gas. She comes home and eats up a bunch of our food, then sits down and watches our cable all night. It's ridiculous! She's a bit manipulative too and I've heard her wait until I'm not in the room to whine to "Daddy" about needing this or that. My husband and I normally communicate pretty well but I am shocked at how defensive he is being about his daughter. Does he feel guilty that he lived far away when she was a teenager and we only saw her for Summers? I was just so mad that I told him to go get an apartment and live with her. Immature, I know- but I'm so bugged! I suggested that we let her save her money for 4-6 months to get a financial cushion and then give her a deadline to be out. My husband says he feels blindsided by me wanting her out and argues that I agreed to have her live with us.
Answer by meriana at 7:15 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
Answer by kkbird at 7:14 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
If she were my child I'd be doing the same thing your DH is doing. That's his child, no matter what the age. You sound as if you may be a bit jealous of her, perhaps.
Answer by Crafty26 at 6:58 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
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Answer by older at 7:28 PM on Mar. 19, 2011
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