Wow, tough question, and probably one without a 'right' answer. My kids' have not met their biological dad, so naturally they became curious about him at a young age. I answered their questions about him in honest, age appropriate ways. In your case, since your daughter has a father figure in her life, you may want to discuss this with your husband and see how he feels about it, given that he is the acting 'dad'. I think that its important for children to know the facts about their family, and she'd certainly rather learn about her "father" from you than from someone else. You'll be the best judge about when she's ready for that conversation, but I've found a helpful technique with my kids was talking about how all families are different, and, in your case, that just because your husband isn't her "real" daddy, doesn't mean he doesn't love her. That can be a tricky situation, but I hope it works out for you! Good luck!
at 3:13 PM on Mar. 20, 2011