My step-daughter is 5. We only get her every other weekend (sometimes every weeked if her mom doesn't have plans andevery time there is a 3 or more day holiday we try to get her).
She refuses to eat unless she is geting junk food (needlss to say, she eat's GREAT for grandma as grandma is all about candy, chips, junk, etc as much as we ask her to feed healthy foods). We pretty much assume her mom doesn't make her eat healthy or this would be something she would be used to. We don't know for 100% though as we aren't there and her mom doesn't divulge this type of info, even when we ask... she changes the subject or gets pissed that we ask at all (we are ALWAYS polite and don't attack her).
She will sit at the table with a bite of food in her mouth (that you have to physically feed her or else she just sits there staring around) for an hour. She will not chew, she will not swallow. We have tried identifying her favorite foods and reducing portion sizes to see if she would eat more... she still refuses to eat a whole meal or anything other than sweet items. If you give her something like ketchup to dip her food in she eats just the ketchup/dip and then sits there staring around. If you give her something sweet or junkish (sandwich with chips, sweet potatoes, etc she will eat that one itema dn refuse to eat the rest.
I have noticed that grandma will give her more and more chips and junk or sweet tems and not make her finish a plate. I assume that's what her mom does as well.
Is there anything more we can do? Are we going about this wrong?
We can't seem to get anything through grandma's head or her moms to have them assist us with getting her to eat better (or other than junk food). We have tried. We also have other parenting issues with the mom that go beyond this.
*Edit* I wante dto add (forgot to earlier) that she has already had to have surgery to remove teeth -due to the mental handicap she had to have surgery at the hospital for it- because they were rotting out of her mouth. I have noticed that the one's now left are beginning to turn grey too. :(
She is also gaining unhealthy weight. She is highly over weight for her age and size which will only make issues worse when it come to her mental handicap (mom still hasn't potty trained her and doesn't ay she needs to... she is convinced she will wake up one day and "just start going". So she is already to the breaking point on the biggest size diaper they sell. The waist in her clothes don't fit and then bigger sizes are way too long and nothing fits for a diaper because they aren't made for diapers. I also fear that she will get very unhealthy and make her current health issues worse (she gets sick VERY easily and almost ALWAYS seems to be sick) or harder to handle.
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