would you go back to your spouse and try to work things out?
i love my husband but not in love with him. he was my best friend and i have ruined things with him. hes willing to take me back but it will be a long road ahead. i have trust issues with him but nothing this bad. i just dont know what to do. my therapist said it is normal to fall out of love with your spouse after time but its more about if you like the person. and i do like my husband. hes not a horrible person, we just fight a lot. but when its good, it was really good. he has communication issues that we never got to focus on in therapy and i think if we focused on that first, things wouldnt have gotten the way they did. i just dont know if this is enough and if i feel like i just am gonna go back bc hes safe and things would be easier. but if things will change, i dont know.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:35 PM on Mar. 20, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by jenn4443 at 5:43 PM on Mar. 20, 2011
well i am not the one who cheated..hubby did :( n yes its been hard n we have a long road ahead of us..i have major trust issues now..he sends me pics when hes at work, texts me calls me ect he did the whole online stuff plus tellin a girl that he loved her..he says he never physically cheated but ill never know he hid that online stuff for a wole year before gettin caught so ya..but we BOTH wanna try n make things work. i love him to death n even though hes hurt me so much we dont want to give up on a 9 year relationship n 5 year marrage..not saying that would be the same for u.i gues u just gotta go with what ur heart says. if u dont wanna try then no point in draggin it on right. my hubby also has communication issues.
Answer by mommyof3_21 at 5:50 PM on Mar. 20, 2011
Do you feel like your only there because it's safe when the bad times are hitting you? I noticed that every fight, every argument, I'd realize I didn't want to be with my hub. I was the one who cheated. My hub made the decision to forgive me. Make a decision to make your life and the life of your spouse better, and then DO IT. If he's willing to take you back, then nothing is ruined. Love doesn't stop just because of pain. We worked through it on our own and are better people because of dealing with it. Our relationship is stronger, we get a long. This is a hard road to travel. Decide whether you feel it's worth it. If you can say that you still feel like it's worth it then throw yourself into your relationship.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 5:52 PM on Mar. 20, 2011
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