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Ways to cope with your husband being stationed in Germany, and you being at home pregnat with your third child?

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kelseydudley

Asked by kelseydudley at 6:49 PM on Mar. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Why are you not in Germany with him?
    ba13ygrl1987

    Answer by ba13ygrl1987 at 6:56 PM on Mar. 20, 2011

  • Weeeell ... as in a perspective to adopt for creating a healthy attitude? - like feeling sisterhood with women whose husbands were sailors and gone for years, or other women whose husbands are away for lengthy periods of time due to jobs, war or imprisonment ...

    Or as in steps to take - like strategies for having the support you need?
    My daughter-in-law had their children only 12 months apart, and our son was called to Afghanistan for 7 months when the new baby was 3 months old. They were living on a West Coast military base, but her East Coast parents invited her to come live with them while he was away, so our son flew his little family across the country and spent a week getting them all established in their new home before he flew back to rejoin his troops. That was WONDERFUL of her parents, wasn't it ?! She had live-in adults to help with the chores, etc. AND they got to live with their grandbabies. It was great.
    waldorfmom

    Answer by waldorfmom at 7:00 PM on Mar. 20, 2011

  • (Cont'd) In a few weeks, our son has to go overseas again, but this time our dtr-in-law will stay put - the children are now 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 and it will be hard, but she has more acquaintances nearby AND a couple of good friends, too. Her mother will take time off work to come live with her for a couple of weeks, and we will go down to visit a couple of times to help out (perhaps cooking up some casseroles to be frozen into servings for quick meals for them, etc.)

    Not too long ago, the little family stayed up north with us for 2 weeks, and she is invited to do that again if she'd like.

    The long and short of it for them was that it is a wrenching situation, but the current economy has prevented him from getting a private sector job right now. SHE is a lawyer and could pick up some well-paying work, but she REALLY wants to be her children's mom for their first years at least, so this is her decision.

    All best wishes to you !
    waldorfmom

    Answer by waldorfmom at 7:08 PM on Mar. 20, 2011

  • I was pregnant with my 2nd and 3rd children when my hubby went to Iraq and preg with 5th when he went to Afghanistan. Find hobbies, make a scrapbook, learn something new, go back to school, there are lots of ways to pass the time.
    matthewscandi

    Answer by matthewscandi at 8:40 PM on Mar. 20, 2011

  • no help here, other than you can do anything!! i can imagine, it must be lonely, but being married into the service, you must be strong and brave. GL and i hope you find some answers!
    Arretsmomma5

    Answer by Arretsmomma5 at 9:48 PM on Mar. 20, 2011

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