I guess I have always know that my husband is verbally abusive. I am a very strong, independent woman, so I don't feel like it has really affected my self-esteem and of coarse he has very good qualities or I wouldn't have married him. But, now that we have a baby (8 mo. old) I seriously only care about her. After an episode tonight, out of no where like they always are, I am really starting to consider leaving. I am a SHM right now and I know it would be a HUGE life change (but I did teach for 8 years and have a Masters).....but I just see visions of him speaking to me like he does in front of her as she grows up basically teaching her that it is ok and I DON'T want her to ever end up with someone who treats her like that. Funny how you care more about your children than yourself.
I am just tired of the random outbursts over God knows what when he is tired, stressed etc. Somehow I am the one to blame....the name calling ensues and I basically just have to leave. I have tried to "talk rationally" with him asking what outside of home has upset him and to try to make him realize that he is being abusive and I don't deserve it.....but as usual I am "crazy" , I instigate him, or I am the "problem"... blah, blah, blah. Now that I have a daughter, I just see it in a whole new light.
I wonder if counseling would help at all....if he would even go.
Thinking I should just get my shit together (job, etc.) and get the hell out.
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