Quick background. My brother has always been a liar, a cheater and a theif. He has been in and out of jail for petty things, and for abuse towards his girlfriends along with he was charged with rape. I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and my brother knew it, witnessed it sometimes and did nothing to help me. And then when I left, he scolded me for leaving and has remained friends with my ex.
He has a few baby momma's. And always cheats and has girlfriends and he has a wife.
Once he was physically abusive to me when he was a teenager and since then he has been verbally abusive to me. I've allowed him and his wife and kids to live with me 2 years ago for free, and they ran up our bills, trashed our basement apartment and then ran out on us without saying a word.
Everyone else in our family has written him off.
Now, he is dying of cancer. His wife has pending charges against him for abuse, going to court in April. At first I told him he could come live here and I'd take care of him. He was to arrive in 2 weeks.
But, he has began to be abusive to me again, verbally. Calling me names and telling me that I've never done anything for him. When I'm always the one that has gotten him out of trouble. I have 3 children at home. If I bring him here, he is going to turn out lives upside down. If you didn't know him you would think that his behavior is just the cancer. But he has been this way his whole life. (We do not have parents, they died)
I just can't bring him here, I can't lose my job to take care of him and turn my house upside down and risk my children being emotionally scared by his abusive behavior. He is the type of person that always wants more and always does the wrong things.
I of course feel guilt.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:01 AM on Mar. 21, 2011 in General Parenting
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