So my son is almost 3-1/2. He has always had this "king quality" where he LETs us do things for him and never wants to do things for himself without a fight or battle.. its like Most kids say "No- I do it" he never did that once.. lol.. He's very active and was verbal very early so communication is not an issue at all.. I just get frustrated that everything seems to be an issue ... still after a full year of him being able to do things for himself like putting on his shoes or taking off his clothes for bed or bath he will fight me on doing it himself.. every time.. trying to teach him to ride a bike this weekend, which he knows how to do on a tricycle or big wheel, this is just the real 16" bike, he refused to give even one ounce of effort.. my husband and I are or try to be patient as maybe he's just not as coordinated as other kids his age or something but it seems like every step of the way is a battle..with any and everything.. we are very consistent in making him do things on his own that we know he can do but why won't he TRY anything on his own - he's been potty trained for 6 months and still needs us to go with him to go pee or poop or he gets upset.. I don't understand ... he can't do anything by himself or try anything.. WHY?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:12 AM on Mar. 21, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by BaileysMom476 at 11:23 AM on Mar. 21, 2011
Just stop. When he throws a fit and you give in you are teaching him that you will always give in. Do 123 magic. If you say take off your clothes and get in the tub, he should do it. If he says anything except OK then 1. If he cries and says you do it then 2. If he says anything but OK then 3 and he is punished. This goes for every situation. This teaches him that you are boss and what you say goes. You are letting a child run the show. Arguing with a toddler is like arguing with a monkey.
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