I am a proud SAHM with my 11 month old daughter. I also watch my best friend's 12 month old daughter 3 days per week. I love her daughter and think the world of her but I have noticed a problem developing between the two girls. Her daughter has showed increasing signs of aggression towards my daughter and I'm not sure how to discipline this behavior because they are so young. She does everything from hit, push, pinch, and steal toys from my daughter. Anything my daughter is playing with is suddenly the toy she wants and any time she is upset, tired, or for no reason at all my daughter becomes a target.
My daughter was in daycare with about 10 other babies for approximately 3 months & did wonderfully! She will also stand up for herself to some degree by walking away from her or "slapping" her hand away when she is about to be hit. My friend's baby has not been in daycare but has always been in an in-home sitter with one other baby around her age and I am unaware if there were any previous problems. All I know is she was dropped suddenly from her last provider (who was also a friend of hers) with only 2 weeks notice & no real answer. I am beginning to wonder if this is why among other small issues.
I am of course always present in the room with them and move her away from my daughter immediately & tell her sternly "no" and set her away from my daughter but I'm not sure if this is getting through because no progress has been made even though I have done this consistently. I wasn't as concerned before today but earlier this afternoon she pinched my daughter on the arm so hard it left a mark & nearly broke the skin (she's even pinched & hit me before so I know from experience that this little girl has amazingly strong hands!). I did the same stern "no" and this time I placed her in the pack 'n play (as a safe time-out area). But as soon as I took her out the minute later (its a minute for each year, correct?) She went walking back over & I was watching her as she went to do it again.
My daughter does nothing to antagonize her or even draw attention to herself and I am unsure what to do at this point. My daughter is usually playing by herself when these things happen. This is nothing I want to come between my friend and I but I want my daughter to feel happy & safe in her own home. I'm really not sure what to do. ANY suggestions at this point would be very helpful! Thank you!!!
Answer by Jademom07 at 4:10 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by Nicoles2LilRams at 4:15 PM on Mar. 21, 2011