How do I explain to my mother that I love her and want her in mine and my childrens and df's lives but not every week, Id like it if she was able to spend time with us say every 3 weeks at the least.
I dont want to hurt her by saying I dont want her over as much as she has been (every 2-3 days and takes my dd over night once a week which is nice but just over whelming because we (my df and I) want to do stuff with our kids and raise our kids the way we have been, but every time she has our dd our dd doesnt sleep when she is at her house (gets to bed at 12am wakes up at 6 or 7am, she doesnt eat anything but junk food and snacks then wont eat dinners over my mothers house) then when we get our dd home she wont sleep well for us she acts out and wont barely eat.
Also my mother, my dd's grandma tryes to act like she is my dd's mom, she tryes to control how we raise our dd and what we buy her and do with her. She pretty much steps over our boundaries and I just dont really know if this is normal stuff for a grandparent or not but me and my df dont like it.
So how do I talk to her about this without making her upset or sad I just dont know how to make her understand. (My df, dd and I are moving soon and my mother thinks were leaving because of her and thinks I hate her and dont care about her beause were moving, which the reason were moving is because df has 3 jobs lined up and it will be easier living there than where we are). Any ideas about this ???
ps she is now planning on possibly moving to where we are so no idea what to do if she does end up moving ( we are moving 1500 miles away from where we are now )Answer Question
Answer by ImaginationMama at 6:20 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by Mme.Langley at 6:23 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
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Answer by ElenaC419 at 9:08 PM on Mar. 21, 2011