I know that sounds very bad... but I cant help it that I do ( and I do feel like a crappy person for feeling this way) .......
We have been friends since high school ( we are 24 now ). After becoming mothers we grew closer but now as time goes on I feel myself pulling away from her, because I feel embarrassed about some of the things she says and the things she does.
For one thing, she is on PA - which if she really needed it then thats fine ( that is what it is for afterall) ... but if we go out shopping together she will spend like $50 on makeup, clothes or toys, and then hand over her food stamp card to pay for her drinks and food that she gets at the same time and she thinks nothing of it....one time we had to stop by the store and she went in and got a few groceries and a couple candles and then got each of her kids a toy ... she then realized she forgot her food stamp card so she paid for the other stuff and we had to go all the way back to her house just so she could get the card to go back and buy the bread and pop she "couldnt" get with the actual money she had on her.
When she met my mother in law ( who is very "uppity" ) for the first time she actually told her that when her kids go to school she is still going to stay at home because if she got a job they would lose all of their PA ... Her boyfriend actually makes decent money at his job but they are content on living in the dumpy trailor park ( some trailor parks are decent but theirs isnt) , and they have a car that has duct tape pretty much all over it... but yet they have a home full of high end things ( high def. big screen tvs in every room, the best of the best cell phones and computers, cameras, etc) ....
And then whenever we around other people she talks about her boyfriend and that she refuses to marry him because if they break up she will have less rights to their kids ( I am not sure why she thinks that or why she thinks it is better to just keep having kids with someone who she is already planning on not being with in the future?)
It is like she doesnt realize that not everyone wants to hear about how she uses her PA ( I actually think she thinks everyone is on it or something) .... I know this is a hot button for alot of people and when she openly talks about hwo she is basically using it when she doesnt need to be - it annoys people... and it just makes me feel like that makes me look bad too since I am associated with her.... I even have some other friends who have kind of excluded from inviting me places in case she comes too...
How can i not feel like this with her...
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