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is wanting to have a baby with my 18 year old boyfrirend wrong?

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mz_lil_cuti3

Asked by mz_lil_cuti3 at 5:41 PM on Nov. 25, 2008 in Relationships

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  • how old are you?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:42 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • It's not wrong. It may be premature, and not very well thought through, but the feelings are not wrong. But, for the sake of all three of you (you, BF, and any potential child) don't rush into anything.
    PROGENITOR

    Answer by PROGENITOR at 5:43 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • Little more info....how old are you.....do either one of you have a job....can you support and provide for a baby....does he want one......ect...ect.....
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:43 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • wrong to feel that way no but i dont know how old you are and he is still young so im assuming you are to. think it through first. are you done with school? do you both work? can you support a child? is he really someone you wana be with forever becuz regardless of getting married or not you will be bound to him for life with a child keep that in mind.
    Mommy2B04

    Answer by Mommy2B04 at 5:50 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • Why do you want a baby? All of those other questions (how do you support yourselves, etc.) are important, but you need to understand the impulse that is making you want a baby in the first place? Do you feel as if the baby will bind the two of you together more? A baby is the biggest stressor on a marriage, much less a young relationship. It is a very difficult undertaking, which may look easy from the outside but is such a different experience than what you think that it will be. Make sure that you DO NOT have a baby because you think that it will bring something into your life that you are missing, or that it will bring the two of you closer together. DO NOT have a baby because you want to feel loved. You need to analyze the reasons why you want to have a baby at this point in your life and with this person to whom you have not yet made a decision to spend your life with.
    evwsquared

    Answer by evwsquared at 5:56 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • That depends on how old you are, my dear.

    And wanting it is not wrong, but doing it might be. There are a lot of things you two need to provide for this child and to jump into parenthood prematurely should never be something you "plan" to do. Graduating, getting real jobs, getting married, those are things that really should come first. You need to have an established adult life to do what's best for your child, so think about that first. Your going to be crazy about that baby no matter when he or she comes, but don't you want to be the best parent and provider you can be? Wait, it'll be SO much better later.
    KatieCrandall

    Answer by KatieCrandall at 6:24 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • Wants are goals. There is nothing wrong with goals; however, some goals may need to wait until the time is right. Personally I'd wait until the economy was strong and he had a good job and I was an adult and had a good job and we saved for a home then to have a child to put in that home....See, there are many variables to consider.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:25 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • its not really wrong but is it what u want at 16 i thought the same thing and waited til i was 18 and still wish i could have waited longer to have my son...
    navywifemomkoch

    Answer by navywifemomkoch at 6:25 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • aren't you already preg?
    abellvalerie

    Answer by abellvalerie at 6:40 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

  • ditto arent you already prego
    FIVEHAPPYHEARTS

    Answer by FIVEHAPPYHEARTS at 6:54 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

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