My mother recently passed away and I've now been given custody of my sister, she's 4 years old and she is like a baby mouse atm. She doesn't speak, barely eats and doesn't smile. I'm so worried about her. We have a counsellor session booked but they can't fit us in for a few weeks. I'm 18 years old and live in the UK, not sure why I posted that but yes, my friend suggested I post her account here. I'm grieving too but I knew what was coming during her terminal cancer however my sister didn't. She won't talk to me because I'm not her mother. Does anyone have any experience or similar things that have happened to them? I'm so worried about her, I can't stop. I stay up every night just lying there and worrying, it's sounds awful but I'm not even grieving, I just can't stop worrying about her and what she's going through. I spent alot of time looking after her in the last few years but she still wasn't prepared for mum not being here at all it seems.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:43 PM on Mar. 21, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
You do belong here with us. You are a parent to your lil sister(Not easy). My mom passed away when my lil brother was 15 and I had no choice but to take care of him. For awhile he didn't talk much, but now hes 19 and we have a very open relationship. She is not going to be that easy becouse she is still a baby and need her mom. All you can do is wait for her to come around. It will take her awhile but in her own time she will come around and love you for what you are doing for her. I'm sorry for you and her lose.
Answer by Kimberly71682 at 2:11 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by HistoryMamaX3 at 8:46 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by meriana at 8:48 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by mztxdelta at 8:50 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
I am sorry for your loss. The best thing you can do for her is love her and let her grieve. It would be a good idea for you to grieve with her, even though you were expecting your mom's passing, you have lost your mommy as much as she has.
Answer by ElenaC419 at 9:06 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by Tink05215 at 8:49 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
So sorry to the both of you for your loss. Hope things get beter for both of you, and yea hun, your kinda a mom type now! you should def be here! BUMP
Answer by K_Chel at 8:59 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 9:41 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
i'm sorry its really hard i also live in the uk kids bouncy back fast my advice is get her into some mother and toddler group or nursery . try to find some friends that have kids close in age she can go to the park with and things . she very sad and so you will be so she need to have her mind taken off it other kids often help.
Answer by feralkitten at 8:54 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by pnwmom at 5:41 AM on Mar. 22, 2011