I'm 23 and engaged to be married in 2 1/2 months. My fiance is also my 19 month old son's father and my boyfriend of 3 years. Before my son was born, everything was great between us...I didn't even want to be with anyone else. But after we had my son, things changed. I don't know if it was hormones or what but I just don't feel the same as I used to. I love him, but it almost feels like its not in a romantic way anymore. When I kiss him, I feel nothing. No sparks or anything. Sex is just sex. Nothing behind that either. Now you might be asking yourself why am I marrying him if I feel this way? Because I HAVE to.
His parents are insane and would try everything to make sure my fiance gets full custody of my son. They wouldn't be able to but they would definitely get him joint custody. Even in that circumstance, I would DIE if I was away from my son for 3 or 4 days at a time. Not to mention I'd be worried sick about him because my fiance would move make in with his parents, and they aren't the smartest people when it comes to raising kids, and he would be in an environment that is not suitable for children. It would be like I was living hell on earth.
I have recently run into an old flame from high school and we have been texting and seeing eachother when I go out some nights. We don't do anything but we talk about things we would like to do (sexual) and he gives me TONS of attention that I feel like I'm lacking in my relationship. I love getting this attention from him and him making me feel good about myself. I also like hearing that another guy wants me and all that. I KNOW this is wrong. I know that. But my problem is that I don't know what to do.
I'm unhappy if I marry my fiance because I'll spend the rest of my life with someone I don't love anymore, but I'll be even unhappier if I don't because I'll be worried sick about my son.
My fiance has no idea I feel this way. He thinks everything is fine between us...and so does everyone else.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:31 PM on Mar. 21, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 11:00 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by princessbeth79 at 10:33 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:47 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
What ever you do, do not tell your fiance you are leaving him for another man. Make sure you break up with HIM not for someone else. If you already have issue with each other, marriage will only amplify things. Get out before you really are trapped with more kids and a divorce to go through.
His parents can't get custody of your kids unless you are unfit. Make sure you break up with him gentley and try to remain on good terms if possible. This will make any custody issues easier to handle. As mentioned before DO NOT tell him that you have found someone new, even after you break up for a while.
Answer by vampporcupine at 10:37 PM on Mar. 21, 2011
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Answer by jonellg at 11:47 PM on Mar. 21, 2011